North Jefferson News, Gardendale, AL


April 5, 2012

Danielle Pelkey: Easter morning has good and bad sides

COMMENTARY — It seems like spring actually sprung a little early this year. The weather went from blistering cold to perfection in about 24 hours. And perhaps this is why we are welcoming Easter with open arms this year. It’s not too cold to wear that sleeveless dress that you bought for last Easter. No, this year you can rock the latest in spring fashion without wearing a coat over it.

Men, I know that you don’t have to worry about what to wear on Easter, as your outfits generally consist of jeans of some sort and a collared shirt. But for the ladies, Easter is a time to shine.

For a few women, it is no different than any other day they get the privilege of buying yet another outfit. But for a majority of women, Easter is a great excuse to get those cute little pumps you've eyed all month and that dress that will look perfect with those earrings you found in your drawer. Yes men, this is really how we think.

And for most women, it's not just the excitement of getting new duds for ourselves, we get to buy new outfits for our children. We know that these kid-sized Easter outfits probably won’t even stay clean through the car ride to church, but there is that brief moment when you look around your house and everyone looks picture perfect on a Sunday morning.

As a child, I can remember my Dad telling us that we got new outfits for Easter because the angels at the tomb were wearing new, shiny robes, so we celebrate by doing the same. I didn’t care why we did it, it was a great excuse to pick the dress of my dreams every year.

Parents take great pride in their family looking neat and put together for church. It’s the American dream to have the whole family, sitting happily on a row at church with the bows in the daughter’s hair, no holes in the son’s pants, Dad’s shirt is well pressed and Mom looks like an angel. But no one warns you about how Sunday mornings really go.

That song “Easy Like Sunday Morning” must not have been written by a church-going mother of two, because there is nothing easy about a Sunday morning.

There is some strange part of our DNA that makes us think that Sundays are the perfect days to try to actually prepare a decent breakfast while rolling our hair and trying to wash up the last of the dishes. And who can forget the effort that goes into making your children look halfway presentable at the house of God. There’s the fighting to brush the teeth, fighting to get the perfect dresses or pants and the fighting to make their hair lay down, all while trying your best not to let the devil take you over.

My mom is one of the most amazing Christian women I know. She never gets upset and never raises her voice, but while brushing my hair one Sunday morning I began to backtalk her. I was really good at that when I was a child, but I never took into consideration the stress that the perfect mom (and pastor’s wife, if I may add) had on a typical Sunday morning. She rared the brush back to pop me on the head for my smart mouth, and literally broke the brush over my head. My mom isn’t strong enough to raise a big pot of water over her head, but when the stresses of Sunday morning came on her, she turned into the Hulk.

Easter is the typical Sunday morning — just on steroids. It can be the worse morning of the year for many families. That’s why I’m so blessed to go to a church that doesn’t care what kind of clothes you wear. I’m sure we will have people in their fancy dresses and hose, but I’m also sure we will have people in their jeans and tees. I’m also pretty sure the Pelkey girls will be sporting the easiest thing to throw on this Easter — after all, I have to have time to cook the sweet potato casserole!

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