North Jefferson News, Gardendale, AL


October 16, 2013

Danielle Cater: The benefits of stay-at-home and working moms



I enjoy my job and although it brings its own stress into my life, I try to balance that with my home life stress and make myself be a well-balanced person. I like knowing that I am doing my part to help out the family, to help out the economy and to help my daughters know that there is nothing wrong with a momma who has to work outside of the home. We can love our babies just as much as any stay-at-home mom. We can be great wives to our husbands and we can do our parts around the home and around the office to make the lives of those around us a little better.

There are some women who just were not cut out to work outside the home. The stress is overwhelming and the guilt leaves them feeling awful all the time. To those women I say, stay at home. Do you jobs at home and don’t worry about what others think about you. I happen to enjoy working outside of the home, but I could also see the perks to getting to stay at home all the time.

I personally would go stir crazy, but many women find peace and solitude with their home stays. They enjoy home-schooling and getting to do the little extra things around the home and in the lives of their children that working moms don’t get to enjoy. They can make exquisite dinners that take longer than the 30 minutes my family allows me to prepare dinner before their horns begin to show.

They can do the house chores while their husband is at work so that when he gets home they get to enjoy the evening with him.

Working moms often have to scurry around while the family eats and does homework in a frantic effort to get the house picked up and presentable. It can be exhausting, but either way you go, there are good sides and bad sides. Stay-at-home moms get the down time, the thinking time, but I’ve seen many stay-at-home moms who resent their children and husbands when they stay home and don’t feel like they have a life outside of the four walls of their homes. If you find yourself in this situation, but you still don’t want to get a job, consider volunteering at local charities so that your mind can be put to good work, but you won’t feel confined to your home life all of the time.

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