North Jefferson News, Gardendale, AL

Opinion

May 15, 2013

Danielle Cater: Moms handle many responsibilities

COMMENTARY — Mother’s Day has come and gone, but it is still fresh on my mind. As a mom, life takes on a whole new perspective. Many women who don’t have children, dream of the day they will become mothers, not realizing what a difference it will make in their lives.

Before I was a mom, I could go and do as I pleased. There was no one to answer to and no one had to answer to me. Basically, I was free from all major responsibilities and that suited me just fine. But when my first bundle of joy arrived, responsibility slapped me in the face, hard. When a woman finds out that she is pregnant, she usually runs through the whole life span of her unborn child in her mind at that moment. When that test showed positive the first time, I immediately pictured myself holding a newborn, then sending her off to her first day of school, then taking pictures at the high school graduation, her wedding, grandkids... the list goes on and on. But that all took place in a matter of seconds in my mind. Then the cold, hard reality started to sink in. I would lose sleep over this baby. I would cry over this baby. I would laugh over this baby.

And I would experience true, unconditional love through this child.

Ah yes, being a mom means wearing every hat in the book, but the rewards are well worth it.

Parenting is hard. It’s hard on the parent and it’s hard on the kids. Just last week we had planned the first “spend the night” party for Raygan, my 6-year-old. We were going to leave work early, have a fun day, stay up late and get up to make breakfast all together. There was going to be games and movies and popcorn and laughing and playing... the works. But two days in a row Raygan got notes sent home from school that she had been beating up on the kids in the class and talking back to her teacher; along with laughing about it when getting in trouble. (For the life of me, I don’t know where she gets this nonsense from!) After scolding her for acting just like her momma, we had to make the hard decision to cancel the party because she obviously didn’t take it serious enough the first night she was punished.

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