North Jefferson News, Gardendale, AL

Opinion

May 1, 2013

Danielle Cater: Water your grass and watch it grow

COMMENTARY — Is anyone ever shocked at a marriage ending in divorce these days? Does anyone gasp in shock when a movie star is found cheating on their spouse? The implied answer here would be a resounding “no.” It’s sad that our society is so used to infidelity that we don’t even flinch when we are approached with it.

Believe it or not, I was a little surprised to hear of country music singer Jason Aldean’s scandal back a couple of months ago. Apparently the media spotted him kissing another woman and made that information quite public. How devastating that must have been to his wife (whom he has known since high school) and his two daughters. They have been married 12 years and, as of this week, he has filed for divorce.

When will someone step up and say enough is enough? Who will be the one to say that, no matter what temptation may come against me, I will stay faithful to my spouse? Is it so crazy to think that a man and woman would say their vows on their wedding day and actually stick to the words they said? Remember that little part in there about “forsaking all others?” Does that mean anything to anyone? You can say whatever you want, but no circles are exempt from the predators against our marriages. It doesn’t matter what group of friends, acquaintances or church members that you run around with, you are at risk. I challenge you to think of at least five couples you know on a personal level who have not dealt with unfaithfulness in their marriages.

If we know it is a real threat, then what are we doing to fight against it? I would say the best offense is a good defense in this case. Don’t put yourself at risk or in situations that would set you up for a disaster. No job or friend or establishment is worth losing your family over — and I want to stress here, no person is worth losing your family over, either. The grass may look greener on the other side of the fence, but if you would water your own grass, it would probably look just as good. Instead of looking at what others have in a marriage relationship, tend to your own. Water your own garden and just watch it grow.

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