North Jefferson News, Gardendale, AL

Opinion

August 2, 2013

Danielle Cater: Bullying comes in all shapes and sizes

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COMMENTARY —

I feel like I can talk freely about weight issues because I have been on both sides of that fence. I’ve straddled that fence and waltzed with it and buried it. Weight is something I have struggled with my whole life, and the fight isn’t getting any easier in my later years. Through my self-image battles I have fought with anorexia and bulimia — two topics that not many people want to talk about, but topics that most parents need to discuss with their kids. It’s a physical problem for sure, but it also has devastating effects on the mental side of its victims. Although I have overcome my battles there, I still fight with the afterthoughts of it.

When someone bullies a person who is fighting with these issues, it’s like pouring gasoline onto a fire. It’s hard enough to stop bad habits, but when society is pushing you that way, it can be almost impossible.

All bodies are not created equal and just because your aunt is a size three, that doesn’t mean that God created you to be the same. We have different personalities, difference preferences and different body builds. Love the skin that you are in. Watch what you eat so that you aren’t just being a glutton (which is my sin of choice), but don’t let your weight and figure consume you.

Some people are always going to find a reason to judge you. When I was skinny, everyone tried to get me to gain weight. Now that I’m on the bigger end of the scales, I can tell by the glances and speech that people think I need to head back in the other direction. But really, as long as I’m happy with the way I am, then I’m not going to let it get under my skin.

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