North Jefferson News, Gardendale, AL


June 19, 2013

Danielle Carter: Don’t walk away when times get tough

COMMENTARY — In a world where nothing seems to last, it’s refreshing to hear of people who persevere and press through hard times to reach their goals. Our society makes it so easy for people to walk away from all of their responsibilities. Kids drop out of school, parents walk out on their kids, people quit their jobs and spouses walk away from marriages every day.

We don’t blink an eye when someone tells us that Bill and Cindy are getting divorced. It’s alarming how unalarming divorces are to us. People are placing bets on how long they expect a marriage to last at the wedding ceremonies, and they really aren’t out of line for doing it since more than 75 percent of all marriages end in divorce.

We make it easy to walk away from responsibility, but that shouldn’t be the way we function. In our society, if you don’t think you are being treated fairly, or that you are getting enough out of a relationship, then you have the right to step away from it just because you deserve better. Well, let me tell you a little secret — you’re probably no prize spouse yourself.

If you feel like your spouse hasn’t been giving enough in your marriage, turn that mirror around and see if you’ve been the model spouse. I’m sure you can find areas to improve in your own relationship without pointing fingers at your significant other. If you look hard enough, you will find plenty of reasons to divorce your spouse — “She burns the biscuits. He never cuts the grass. She doesn’t clean. He doesn’t help with the kids. She spends too much money. He puts his job before his family.” We can all sit back and nick pick our spouses to pieces. We can tear them down to a point of no return, and sadly, many spouses do this exact thing.

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