North Jefferson News, Gardendale, AL

Opinion

July 24, 2013

Danielle Cater: Baby's tragic death in Homewood is no excuse for judgement

COMMENTARY — Putting a judgment on people is easier than you might realize. How many people judged that mother who left her child in the car in Homewood last week? It’s easy to sit back and say that a mother should never forget her child. Go ahead and put your stamp of disapproval all over this mom. But in reality, that could be any mother’s story.

We get into such a routine that when things are out of the ordinary, we still run on memory. How many times has there been construction work on your route home and when you drove by it in the morning, you tried to remind yourself to take a different route when you returned, but forgot. We are creatures of habit and when we do things out of our regular routine, it’s easy to forget.

I have never left my children anywhere unattended, but I can see how it would be easy to do so. I have several friends and family members who have thought their spouse had the children only to arrive at a different destination and discover that their children were left behind. It happens a lot, but it doesn’t always have the tragic ending that this circumstance had.

I cannot even imaging being that momma when she realized what had happened. How her heart must have dropped the very moment her mind recalled that she had forgotten to take her baby to the sitter for the day.

If you’ve never been the mother of a 1-year-old, then you really have no idea what the first year of parenting is like. There are late nights, early mornings, continuous running around and worrying over everything. People call it “mommy brain” but it is proven that women are often much more forgetful in the first few years of their children’s lives.

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